"Ball caps? Really?"
"Yes," said the man. "I find women in ball caps extremely attractive. "
This was the conversation we had recently had at a writing retreat with one of the males attending. So why then, I ask you, do we ladies spend hours and hours over the years purchasing just the right garment or finding the right shade of lipstick when we could just as easily wear no make-up at all and throw on a ballcap?
Most men I've talked with on the subject agree that certain outfits (usually those with cleavage) have a lot to do with their level of attraction toward a woman. However, in my experience, they are just as likely to pick out something they like about every woman. I've heard them say things like "What a nice pair of gams!" or "I like her hair." But in reality the woman looked like she'd stepped out of a time machine!
So let's reverse it. What do we find attractive? Is it only looks since that seems to be what we see about ourselves most often? The best looking men in the bar often can't get a gal to save their life while the man who smiles often and gives off a certain level of confidence (not overly so however) seems more likely to get our attention.
Perhaps in the end men aren't so very different from us afterall. Perhaps it is those ladies with confidence men find attractive but they hide it with their physical comments and we assume that's really what they want. We must find confidence attractive in ourselves as well for the heroines of the day are either confident in themselves or become that way.
I recently wrote a Chapter in my work in progress in which the heroine wears fuzzy bunny slippers and a sweat shirt. Perhaps I should add a ball cap to wardrobe?
Anne
